It can be extremely difficult for some people to talk about private issues to people outside of the family. While it may be awkward or even embarrassing, it is important to talk to your family attorney about specific issues if they have been present in the relationship or if there is a concern with them moving forward with the divorce.
The earlier this information is shared with the attorney, the easier it will be to have a plan in place if they do occur or become an issue in the divorce. It is always nice to assume that everyone will be fair and work together, but this is not always the case, particularly if emotional issues and anger become a problem during the divorce.
Domestic Violence
It is important to share any concerns about domestic violence with your family attorney. This should be done in the initial meeting as there are legal options to provide protection for the abused spouse and the children.
Often, during the divorce process, the abusive spouse may become more violent or threatening. When the attorney is aware of this issue, he or she can work with the abused spouse and assist in obtaining the professional services required.
History of Criminal Activities
While it can be very challenging to discuss past issues, if you have a history of criminal charges, use of drugs or alcohol or if there have been any issues with child protective services with children of this marriage or children of other relationships, let your family attorney know.
These issues will typically be brought up in mediation as well as in court. When the attorney is aware of these past issues, he or she can effectively plan for how to address the comments when they occur.
Talk to the attorney about any issues that may be used against you in court or in mediation. It is better to share the information confidentially with your lawyer than to hide it only to have it come out and take the attorney by surprise.
